Building real confidence

Stage 2 · Lesson 3 of 7

Testing a self-doubting thought

Your inner critic and self-talk

Once you have named a thought, test it like a scientist. Write the thought and how much you believe it, from 0 to 100. List the evidence for it and the evidence against it: real events, not feelings.

Ask what you would say to a friend who had this thought, and what someone who respects you would say. Then write a more balanced version and rate your belief again. "I am terrible at coding" might become "I struggle with recursion, and I solved the last two assignments after asking for help." The balanced thought is not cheerful; it is accurate.

Common trapskipping the evidence against, because self-doubt makes you forget it. That is why stage 4 has you keep an evidence file.

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