Coping that makes things worse

When people feel bad, they reach for whatever brings quick relief: hours of scrolling or gaming, eating much more or less, smoking, vaping, alcohol or other substances, or staying in bed. These are understandable, and they can give relief for a short while.

Over time, most of them make mood, sleep and anxiety worse, and some can become hard to stop. Notice what you reach for when you feel low, without judging yourself. Then try swapping one habit for something that also brings relief but leaves you better off: a walk, a shower, a call, music, prayer, or writing your feelings down.

If you find you cannot cut down on alcohol, substances or another habit, that is a reason to talk to a doctor or counsellor, not a reason for shame.