Stage 4 · Lesson 6 of 6

Asking for feedback

Self-doubt guesses at what others think, and the guesses are usually harsher than the truth. Feedback replaces guessing with information. Ask specific questions to people whose judgement you trust: "What is one thing I did well in that presentation, and one thing to improve?"

Specific questions get useful answers; "Was it OK?" gets "Yes, fine." When you get feedback, listen, thank them and write it down in your evidence file, including the positive parts. You do not have to agree with all of it.

Over time, feedback shows you that your work is often better than you feared and that the gaps are fixable.

Common trapavoiding feedback because you fear criticism, which leaves your inner critic as your only source.

A question to check yourself and an AI practice session come when you add the roadmap to your account. Add it

Resources for this stage

Start with

CourseFree
Learning How to Learn (Coursera)
Deep Teaching Solutions on Coursera · Beginner
Practice and self-testing techniques that turn doubt about a skill into real skill

Practise

VIA Character Strengths Survey
A free survey that ranks your 24 character strengths, to look for in your own life

Keep handy

Notion
A simple place to keep your evidence file, ladder and feedback notes

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