Stage 5 · Lesson 3 of 6

Practise with role-play

Hard conversations go better when they are not your first attempt. Practise with a friend, a sibling, or an AI assistant playing your parent, including the hardest things they might say: "We spent everything on you", "You are being selfish", "Your cousin listened to his parents".

Practise staying calm, repeating what you heard, and returning to the shared goal. Do it more than once, until the hard lines stop shaking you. Treat the AI as a sparring partner only: it does not know your parents, and you decide what is true.

Common trappractising only the easy version, where your parent agrees after two good arguments. Prepare for the version that hurts.

A question to check yourself and an AI practice session come when you add the roadmap to your account. Add it

Resources for this stage

Start with· follow one of these

BookPaid
Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High
Joseph Grenny, Kerry Patterson, Ron McMillan, Al Switzler, Emily Gregory (McGraw Hill) · Paid book
How to stay calm and keep talking when stakes are high and emotions run strong
VideoFree
How to Disagree Productively and Find Common Ground (Julia Dhar, TED@BCG)
Julia Dhar (TED@BCG Toronto)
A short talk on disagreeing in a way that keeps the relationship

Practise

Claude
Use the stage prompts to role-play your parent before the real talk

Keep handy

Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters MostPaid
Keep it nearby to plan the second and third conversation

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