Stage 6 · Lesson 2 of 6

Choose who to ask

Not all feedback is equally useful. Tasha Eurich suggests looking for "loving critics": people who want good things for you and will also tell you the truth. Good choices are people who have seen you in the situation you care about, such as a teammate from a group project, a manager, a teacher who knows your work or a senior you shadowed.

Avoid relying only on close friends who may be too kind, or on people who are in competition with you. Different people see different sides, so ask a few from different parts of your life. If you have no one suitable, a mentor through a free platform like ADPList can give an outside view.

Common trapasking only people who will confirm what you already believe.

A question to check yourself and an AI practice session come when you add the roadmap to your account. Add it

Resources for this stage

Start with

VideoFree
How to Disagree Productively and Find Common Ground (Julia Dhar, TED@BCG)
Julia Dhar (TED@BCG Toronto)
How to hear a different view without turning it into a fight

Practise

ADPList
Free mentors who can give you an outside view when nobody near you can

Keep handy

One on One Meeting Questions
Ready-made questions for asking a manager or senior for useful feedback

Also worth your time

Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters MostReadPaid
Why feedback hurts, and how to listen for what is useful in a hard conversation

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