Stage 6 · Lesson 3 of 6

How to ask clearly

Clear requests are easier to say yes to. Say what is going on in one or two sentences, what you have tried, and exactly what you need: "I am stuck on recursion and have watched two videos. Could you spend twenty minutes going through one problem with me this week?" or "I am finding it hard being away from home.

Can we talk on Sunday?" Give a way to say no or offer something else. Then thank them and tell them later how it went.

Common traphinting instead of asking, such as saying "this course is so hard" and hoping someone offers. Most people miss hints, and you end up feeling ignored.

A question to check yourself and an AI practice session come when you add the roadmap to your account. Add it

Resources for this stage

Start with· follow one of these

VideoFree
The Power of Vulnerability (Brené Brown, TEDxHouston)
Brené Brown (TEDxHouston)
Why letting people see you struggle builds connection rather than weakness
GuideFree
How to Ask Good Questions (Julia Evans)
Julia Evans · Beginner
Practical rules for asking clear questions people can actually answer

Keep handy

Doing What Matters in Times of Stress (WHO)
WHO's free illustrated guide to coping when things are hard
7 Cups (free peer listening)
Free chat with a trained volunteer listener, any time

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