Stage 1 of 6 · 6 lessons · ~1 week
What confidence really is
Confidence is not a personality type or a feeling you wait for. It grows from doing things, often while still nervous. Start by understanding impostor feelings and where your own doubt comes from.
Start: Confidence, self-esteem and arroganceLessons· one lesson for each topic, in this order
Do this
- Write your own definition of confidence in two sentences
- Name the impostor thought you hear most often
- Write two messages about ability or mistakes you grew up with
- List five situations where you hold back and rank them from easiest to hardest
- Pick one small action from the easiest item and do it this week
Start with· follow one of these
- VideoFreeThe Skill of Self Confidence (Dr. Ivan Joseph, TEDxRyersonU)
Dr. Ivan Joseph (TEDxRyersonU)
A coach on why confidence is a skill you build with repetition, not something you are born with
- VideoFreeThe Power of Vulnerability (Brené Brown, TEDxHouston)
Brené Brown (TEDxHouston)
Why being willing to be seen, imperfect, is at the heart of real confidence
Also worth your time
Before moving on: A short note in your own words on what confidence is and is not, the impostor thought you hear most, two messages about ability you grew up with, and a ranked list of five situations where you hold back.
Confidence is built, not discovered. You do not need to become a different person; you need a lot of small, slightly uncomfortable actions and a fair record of how they went. Most of the people who seem confident to you are nervous too. They have simply practised acting while nervous.
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