Stage 1 · Lesson 1 of 6

Confidence, self-esteem and arrogance

Confidence is trust in your ability to handle a particular thing: a presentation, a coding task, a conversation. It can be high in one area and low in another. Self-esteem is your overall sense of your own worth.

Arrogance is different from both: it is claiming ability you do not have, or looking down on others, and it often hides insecurity. Real confidence is quieter. It sounds like "I have not done this before, but I can learn it" and "I do not know, let me find out". Confident people still feel nervous; they act anyway.

Common trapthinking confidence means loud, certain and never doubting. Many of the most capable people you know are quietly confident, and many loud people are not.

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Resources for this stage

Start with· follow one of these

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The Skill of Self Confidence (Dr. Ivan Joseph, TEDxRyersonU)
Dr. Ivan Joseph (TEDxRyersonU)
A coach on why confidence is a skill you build with repetition, not something you are born with
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The Power of Vulnerability (Brené Brown, TEDxHouston)
Brené Brown (TEDxHouston)
Why being willing to be seen, imperfect, is at the heart of real confidence

Also worth your time

The Confidence Gap (Russ Harris)ReadPaid
The idea that action comes before the feeling of confidence, with practical exercises
Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking (Susan Cain)Go deeperPaid
Confidence does not mean being loud: the strengths of quieter people

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