Stage 6 · Lesson 1 of 6
A trusted relative on your side
In many families, the right word from an uncle, aunt, grandparent, older cousin or family elder carries more weight than anything you say. Think about who your parents respect, who has seen more of the world, and who has always been fair to you.
Talk to them first, privately, with your one-page plan. Ask for advice rather than an ally: "How should I explain this to Abbu?" People who are asked for advice often become supporters. Then, if they agree, they may raise it with your parents in their own way.
Common trapchoosing a relative who loves drama, or one your parents are already in conflict with. That can make everything harder.
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Resources for this stage
Start with
- BookPaidDifficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most
Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, Sheila Heen (Penguin Books) · Paid book
Useful for talks with relatives and mentors as well as parents
Practise
Free mentoring sessions with working professionals to test your plan
- MentorCruisePaid
Longer-term mentors in tech, if you want someone senior in your corner
Keep handy
Struggling right now? If you are in danger or thinking about harming yourself, contact local emergency services or a crisis line: Find a helpline (any country), Umang (Pakistan), Tele-MANAS, 14416 (India).