Stage 6 · Lesson 3 of 6

Find the useful part

Even unfair or badly delivered feedback usually contains something useful. A simple habit: after you receive feedback, wait a day, then ask yourself, "If 10% of this were true, which 10% would it be?" Look for patterns across people.

If one person says your writing is unclear, it might be them; if three say it, it is probably the writing. Choose one point to act on, not five.

Common trapthrowing out everything because part of it was wrong, or trying to fix every comment at once and burning out before any of them improve.

A question to check yourself and an AI practice session come when you add the roadmap to your account. Add it

Resources for this stage

Start with

BookPaid
Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most
Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, Sheila Heen (Penguin Books) · Paid book
From two of the authors of the feedback triggers idea, on hard conversations of every kind

Practise

The Update, the Vent, and the Disaster
How to bring a problem to your manager, and what they are listening for

Keep handy

One on One Meeting Questions
Specific questions to ask for useful feedback in one-to-ones

Also worth your time

The Confidence Gap (Russ Harris)ReadPaid
On acting on what matters while the fear and self-doubt are still there

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