Stage 6 · Lesson 6 of 6

Ask for feedback before it is forced on you

Feedback stings most when it comes as a surprise at the end: a grade, a performance review, a rejection. Asking early and often makes it smaller and more useful. Ask specific questions: "What is one thing I could do better in my next presentation?" is easier to answer honestly than "Any feedback?"

Ask people at a similar level as well as seniors. Show you can take it: thank them, act on one point and tell them later what you changed. People give more honest feedback to someone who uses it.

Common traponly asking people who will praise you, or only asking when it is too late to change anything.

A question to check yourself and an AI practice session come when you add the roadmap to your account. Add it

Resources for this stage

Start with

BookPaid
Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most
Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, Sheila Heen (Penguin Books) · Paid book
From two of the authors of the feedback triggers idea, on hard conversations of every kind

Practise

The Update, the Vent, and the Disaster
How to bring a problem to your manager, and what they are listening for

Keep handy

One on One Meeting Questions
Specific questions to ask for useful feedback in one-to-ones

Also worth your time

The Confidence Gap (Russ Harris)ReadPaid
On acting on what matters while the fear and self-doubt are still there

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