Stage 7 · Lesson 6 of 6
Trying again, and knowing when not to
Starting again does not always mean trying the same thing. Sometimes you resit the same exam or apply to the same kind of role with a better method. Sometimes the post-mortem shows that a different path suits you better: another kind of role, a different project, a different country.
Both are fine; what matters is that you decide with information rather than fear or stubbornness. Set a review date, perhaps after three months, to look at the plan honestly. Keep your list of setbacks you got through, and add this one when you are past it.
Common trapmaking "never give up" a rule, when sometimes changing direction is the wiser choice.
A question to check yourself and an AI practice session come when you add the roadmap to your account. Add it
Resources for this stage
Start with· follow one of these
- GuideFreeSelf-Compassion (Dr Kristin Neff)
Kristin Neff
Kristin Neff's free exercises for treating yourself like a friend after failure
- VideoFreeHow to Make Stress Your Friend (Kelly McGonigal, TEDGlobal 2013)
Kelly McGonigal (TEDGlobal 2013)
How seeing stress differently, and reaching out to others, changes how it affects you
Practise
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