Stage 1 · Lesson 2 of 6
The event is not your worth
A rejection is a decision someone made about one application, one exam paper or one piece of work, on one day, with the information they had. It is not a verdict on you as a person. Your mind, though, likes to jump from "this did not work" to "I am not good enough".
Practise naming the event in plain, factual words: "My application to this company was not accepted in October." Then notice the extra meaning you add: "Nobody will ever hire me." The first sentence is true. The second is a prediction dressed as a fact.
Common traparguing with the feeling instead of separating the two sentences on paper, where you can see the difference.
A question to check yourself and an AI practice session come when you add the roadmap to your account. Add it
Resources for this stage
Start with· follow one of these
- VideoFreeWhy We All Need to Practice Emotional First Aid (Guy Winch, TEDxLinnaeusUniversity)
Guy Winch (TEDxLinnaeusUniversity)
Why rejection hurts and how to treat emotional injuries as seriously as a cut
- VideoFreeThe Power of Vulnerability (Brené Brown, TEDxHouston)
Brené Brown (TEDxHouston)
Why shame grows in silence, and why naming a setback weakens it
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