Stage 4 · Lesson 4 of 7

Thoughts shape feelings

Name your emotions and read what they tell you

Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), one of the best-studied approaches in psychology, starts from a simple idea: situations do not create feelings directly; our thoughts about them do. Two students fail the same quiz. One thinks "I am stupid, I will fail the course" and feels hopeless.

The other thinks "I did not practise enough of these questions" and feels annoyed but motivated. CBT names common thinking traps: all-or-nothing thinking, mind reading ("they think I am useless"), catastrophising ("this ruins everything") and should statements.

David Burns' book Feeling Good explains them clearly. Noticing the thought between the event and the feeling gives you a choice.

Common trapbelieving you can think your way out of every feeling. The aim is accuracy, not forced positivity.

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Resources for this stage

Start with· follow one of these

VideoFree
Why We All Need to Practice Emotional First Aid (Guy Winch, TEDxLinnaeusUniversity)
Guy Winch (TEDxLinnaeusUniversity)
Why we look after small emotional injuries less well than physical ones, in one talk
GuideFree
NHS Every Mind Matters
NHS (England)
Free NHS self-help for stress, low mood and sleep, with a short personal plan

Practise

Medito (free meditation app)
A free, non-profit app for short guided pauses to notice feelings and breath

Keep handy

Mind: mental health information and support
Plain-language A to Z on emotions and mental health, and when to get help
Find A Helpline
Free crisis and support lines by country, if feelings ever become too much

Also worth your time

Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy (David D. Burns)ReadPaid
The classic, readable guide to catching and correcting thinking traps

Struggling right now? If you are in danger or thinking about harming yourself, contact local emergency services or a crisis line: Find a helpline (any country), Umang (Pakistan), Tele-MANAS, 14416 (India).