Stage 1 · Lesson 5 of 7
Use the nerves instead of fighting them
Before speaking, most people try to calm down. Alison Wood Brooks, a Harvard researcher, tested another approach in a 2014 study: people who told themselves "I am excited" before a speech were rated as more persuasive, confident and competent than those who told themselves "I am calm".
The racing heart and fast breathing of anxiety are close to the body's state of excitement, so relabelling them is easier than switching them off. Combine that with a few slow breaths, longer out than in, to steady your voice.
Common traptreating a fast heartbeat as a sign that you are about to fail, when it is your body getting ready.
A question to check yourself come when you add the roadmap to your account. Add it
Resources for this stage
Start with· follow one of these
- VideoFreeThe Skill of Self Confidence (Dr. Ivan Joseph, TEDxRyersonU)
Dr. Ivan Joseph (TEDxRyersonU)
Confidence as a skill built through repetition, from a university sports coach
- BookPaidQuiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking (Susan Cain)
Susan Cain (Crown) · Paid book
Why quiet people bring real strengths, and how to contribute in your own way
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