Stage 2 of 7 · 7 lessons · ~1 week
Name the pressure you are under
Family pressure takes a few familiar shapes. Naming yours exactly, with its real constraints, is the first step to answering it. Not every family looks like these, and you may be under more than one.
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- Write which of these pressures apply to you, and add any that are missing
- For each one, write the real constraint behind it: money, safety, status, duty or custom
- Cost out finishing versus switching if you are in a degree you did not choose
- Sketch a staged timeline if your family needs your income soon
- Pick the one limit or pressure that matters most for your next step
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Before moving on: A short written description of the exact pressure you are under: what your family wants, the real constraints behind it (money, siblings, safety, marriage, business), and the one part of it you most need to change.
Be specific. "My parents do not support me" cannot be solved. "My father wants me to finish my MBBS because he took a loan for it and is afraid I will waste it" can be worked with. The clearer you are about the real constraint, the more options appear.
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