Stage 3 · Lesson 6 of 6
Check your assumptions about them
You may be sure your father will never accept design, or that your mother cares only about relatives. Sometimes you are right. Often a parent is more flexible than you think, especially when approached calmly with a plan, or one parent is quietly on your side but has never been asked.
People also change over time: what was impossible at sixteen may be discussable at twenty-one, after you have shown responsibility. Before you decide the conversation is hopeless, test your assumptions with small questions.
Common traphaving the whole argument in your head so many times that you walk in already angry at what you expect them to say.
A question to check yourself come when you add the roadmap to your account. Add it
Resources for this stage
Start with· follow one of these
- BookPaidNonviolent Communication: A Language of Life (Marshall B. Rosenberg)
Marshall B. Rosenberg (PuddleDancer Press) · Paid book
A clear method for saying what you feel and need without blaming
- VideoFreeThe Power of Vulnerability (Brené Brown, TEDxHouston)
Brené Brown (TEDxHouston)
Why letting your family see what you feel can open a conversation instead of losing it
Practise
Keep handy
Struggling right now? If you are in danger or thinking about harming yourself, contact local emergency services or a crisis line: Find a helpline (any country), Umang (Pakistan), Tele-MANAS, 14416 (India).