Stage 4 · Lesson 6 of 7

Getting used to no on purpose

Jia Jiang, an entrepreneur, spent 100 days deliberately asking strangers for things he expected to be refused, and found that rejection hurt less with practice and that people said yes more often than he expected. You do not need to do anything dramatic.

Set a target number of applications or outreach messages per week and count the noes as progress, since each one means you tried. Some job seekers aim for a set number of rejections a month rather than a set number of offers, because rejections are under your control and offers are not.

Common trapavoiding asking at all to avoid the pain, which guarantees the outcome you fear.

A question to check yourself and an AI practice session come when you add the roadmap to your account. Add it

Resources for this stage

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RoadmapFree
Sefism Job Search Roadmap
Sefism
The full job search as stages, for fixing whichever one is losing you applications
VideoFree
What I Learned from 100 Days of Rejection (Jia Jiang, TEDxMtHood)
Jia Jiang (TEDxMtHood)
What 100 days of asking for things taught one founder about the fear of no

Practise

Sefism Your First Tech Job Roadmap
A plan for your first tech job, if you are still waiting for a first yes

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