Stage 2 · Lesson 1 of 7
Friendship takes time, and time can be planned
A 2018 study by Jeffrey Hall at the University of Kansas estimated that it takes roughly 50 hours together to turn an acquaintance into a casual friend, around 90 hours to become a real friend, and more than 200 hours for a close friend. The exact numbers matter less than the idea: friendship is built from time spent together, especially time talking and doing things, not only sitting in the same class.
That is good news, because time can be planned. Choose a few people and see them often.
Common trapmeeting many people once and wondering why none of them became friends. Depth comes from repetition, not from the number of introductions.
A question to check yourself and an AI practice session come when you add the roadmap to your account. Add it
Resources for this stage
Start with· follow one of these
- BookPaidHow to Win Friends and Influence People (Dale Carnegie)
Dale Carnegie (Simon & Schuster) · Paid book
Old but still useful: interest in others, names, listening and appreciation
- BookPaidQuiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking (Susan Cain)
Susan Cain (Crown) · Paid book
For quieter people: connection that suits you, not the loudest person in the room
Practise
Keep handy
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