Stage 2 · Lesson 4 of 7
Invite, then follow up
The step that turns a classmate into a friend is usually a small invitation: "Want to get chai after class?", "A few of us are studying in the library on Thursday, want to join?", "I am going to the event on Saturday, are you coming?" Keep it low-pressure and specific, with a time and place.
If they say no, try once more another time; people are busy, and one no is rarely a rejection of you. After a good conversation, follow up: share something you talked about, or suggest meeting again.
Common trapwaiting to be invited. Most people are glad someone else made the effort, and many will never ask first.
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Resources for this stage
Start with· follow one of these
- BookPaidHow to Win Friends and Influence People (Dale Carnegie)
Dale Carnegie (Simon & Schuster) · Paid book
Old but still useful: interest in others, names, listening and appreciation
- BookPaidQuiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking (Susan Cain)
Susan Cain (Crown) · Paid book
For quieter people: connection that suits you, not the loudest person in the room
Practise
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